guys who are guys' guys

During a lunchtime chat today, I learned that there is a difference between girly girls/guy-ish girls/girly guys/guy-ish guys. I mean, I always knew there was a difference there, obviously, but I never realized my preference has significantly changed. Or maybe it has always been this way, but I always thought differently in my head.

Okay, so that paragraph just made no sense. But basically, what I found was that I prefer to be around guy-ish girls and guy-ish guys. The former is not too much of a surprise to me, because I would say I'm pretty guy-ish myself (after my girlish dreams in fourth grade of wanting to be a pop star) and all my best girlfriends in high school had a guy-ish streak to all of them. But the latter was definitely a surprise to me. I never considered myself the type to like guys who are, well, guy-ish: ignorant, muscular, beef-eating, athletic, reticent. In fact, I always thought I liked the artsy-writer-thinker types: classy, insightful, coffee-drinking, songwriting, conversational. But yeah no.

I love competition - verbal/intellectual, sure, but physical as well. I know that sounds weird coming from me but seriously, it's like my inhibition shuts off when it gets into competition mode, be it video games or (dare I say it?) sports/athletic activities. I also love food, even though I haven't been able to eat as much as I was able to back in the day. I am quite crude, and only since coming to college and becoming more pure-minded/hearted through GCC (ha) has kind of made that side of me dormant, but seriously. My friends in high school know - I am pretty quick on my feet concerning "That's what she said"s.

So I love guys that are totally in tune with their guy side. Yeah, embracing feminine characteristics like sympathy, sentimentality, and fashionability is a plus, but there is just something raw and genuine about guys' guys. I can get frustrated with guys that don't talk much, but that is usually out of lack of motivation/interest. But when they do sit down and respond, I think their way of being is better - they just do. No small talk, no hours and hours being moody and cynical, lost in metaphysical, philosophical thoughts. They just live life and do what they do.

So yeah. I can't believe I just chose brawn over brains. But I guess I'm not choosing it over it; it's only that you can't have just brains, ha.

And I also love the girls who understand me and this guyishness inside of me. :)

Verse:

"Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth." (1 John 3:18)