awkward scenario of the week (10/14/08)

Because this blog is supposedly centered on the awkwardness of life, and breaking said awkwardness...I've decided to start two series: "awkward scenario of the week" on Tuesdays, which will be sort of a how-to for resolving awkward situations; and "awkward moment of the week" on Fridays, which will recount the most awkward moment from my life (or maybe another person's, depending) that week for your amusement.

So to start off this week, (I know it says yesterday's date because I didn't think of this until an hour ago...)

The Scenario: 

You know like when you're in a public place, say the grocery store or the mall, and you see an acquaintance you don't really know that well? And maybe you see them first, or your eyes meet, and you're not sure if you should say "hi" or not? SO AWKWARD. There are different levels though - like if you're in the same class as them at that moment, or maybe from last year...then it's just sort of a comfort-zone thing. Are you willing to reach out first? And potentially feel stupid if they don't recognize you? And then there are people you haven't seen since like 8th or 9th grade...and you're not sure if they remember you at all. Then it's really a dilemma. Actually, any time you're not sure if they remember you or not is a problem. For example, I remember one time I was going through a drive-thru at Starbucks, and I pulled up to the window, and it was this kid from my freshman language arts class. I immediately recognized him, since I generally recognize most people that I've met (oh, flawless memory of mine), but I wasn't sure if he knew who I was. So I just smiled and got my coffee and drove off. Thank goodness it wasn't the Wendy's incident (which I may talk about at a later time). 

The Solution:

It's hard to say, because it all depends on what kind of person you are. But overall, I think it's a matter of time. If it's someone you've just met, and you wouldn't mind being friends with them, then just say "hi" and reintroduce yourself if they don't quite remember your name. If it's someone in your class either in the present or last year, say "hi" anyway; chances are, they're just going to play along even if they have no idea who you are. Maybe you'll make a new friend along the way. If it's been >3 years since you've last seen each other/spoken to each other, just smile amiably and move on. If you're going to avoid them completely, make sure to do a good job of it. Don't get caught in the act.

Happy Meeting-and-Greetings!